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The other day I called my husband at work to ask how his day was going.  Before he even finished saying hello he cut me off to answer someone  in the background.  His reply was “I wish!”  I asked “What do you wish?” He answered by saying his associate wanted to know who was calling.  Was it his girlfriend?  So instead of replying ” No”  His answer was I wish.  Can you believe the nerve?  Is it embarrassing these days to reply honestly that your wife is calling?  I am proud to say it’s my husband calling!  Being married should be a good thing not an embarrassment. Being married means you’re in an elite club that only few join and survive: For  better or worse, through thick and thin, someone that always has your back!  Does this answer mean he wants to cheat,  or pretend he’s leading a different sort of life?   Maybe  he’s showing off for anyone listening.  Understanding men and what goes on with their thought process takes a rare breed of woman, someone willing to overlook all the macho bravado and B.S.  After questioning a few of my male friends and asking their opinion on my reaction (in their minds over-reaction) they answered by saying that all men were basically single minded.  What exactly this means is that men want a fantasy of having it all…. Wife and girlfriend, the total package.  It makes them feel envied by their friends or acquaintances.  Men want a wife to come home to someone there to clean, cook, care for the children and anything else that arises.  To listen to them whine and fix all their problems.  The “girlfriend” part is the no talking, nagging or stressing,  just down to sexual business.  All their fantasies come true!   Well don’t all women want the same thing?  Someone to take care of them through the good times and the bad.  Someone to make them feel they are not just the mother of their children, but still the woman whom they married.  The one who made all their dreams come true.  Sexually and spiritually. We all want the perfect fantasy, unfortunately, we sometimes have it and don’t see it until it is too late.   We should cherish the love and the lives we have and not try to be someone we are not.  The good things are the little things.  Being married does have its ups and downs, but in the end its someone that is there though the good and bad.  Someone that doesn’t have to guess what you re thinking they just know and let you be you.  Let’s all not Wish to have something we don’t have but wish to be good to what we have.